Even though it may seem emotions cause thoughts, we have our thoughts first which then trigger our emotions. Our thinking happens so fast that we may not be aware of them.
I have studied both cognitive behavior and rational emotive therapy on my own. I am not a trained mental health therapist. This was just for my own mental health.
Use a journal or notebook to write down your thoughts, emotions, and behavior. which occur in that order. Being aware of our negative emotions is the key to stopping them.
After you record your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors for 3 to 4 days, you need to analyze your findings. and determine what were you doing before your emotions changed to negative ones.
What did you learn about yourself? Were there any patterns that you noticed? How can you stop thoughts from turning into negative emotions that lead to poor behavior?
- When noticing negative thoughts, accept them but let them go and let God.
- Accept yourself as God does.
- Try writing down negative thoughts and then rewrite them to be more positive or realistic.
- Do the above until you can challenge the negative thoughts in your head and reword them.
Write below what action steps you plan to take this week to stop your negative thoughts turning into negative emotions and behavior.
How to Get Pass Your Negative Critic at Work
We all have an inner critic. I affectionately refer to mine as the “inner meanie girl”. Work is a place, whether you work at home or out, where your inner critic likes to play with your self-confidence.
I know mine does, especially when I’m trying new things like uploading plugins on my website. I am terrified to break my WordPress blog. I call myself names and am very mean to myself.
What do you call yourself will have an effect on your work performance, and your the office relationships with your boss and co-workers. Beware of your self-talk, and catch yourself when you are thinking negatively. Try writing down your thoughts on paper, then rewriting the negative thoughts into rational or positive affirmations.
Keep a notebook and learn to be your best cheerleader. What may even be more helpful is involve a supportive friend or family member to encourage you on your journey. Have a relationship with God, for he is your biggest cheerleader.
- Start a prayer journal
- Keep an inner critic notebook
- Write out all your inner critic’s thoughts,
- Write positive affirmations on index card then rewrite them in helpful terms
- Recruit a supportive family member or friend
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